News Commentary: Mr. Frank Vennes Jr. Indicted- An Exposed Wolf in Sheeps Clothing

         Soon after this blog was started the Tom Petters ponzi scheme was exposed.  One of the individuals involved in the scheme was Frank Vennes Jr. a professed evangelical who had ties to Teen Challenge, a prison ministry called Charis, and Northwestern College in Minnesota.  The initial article[i] called Mr. Vennes Jr. to task for being a wolf in sheeps clothing and those who knew and supported Mr. Vennes confronted this writer for jumping to conclusions and passing judgment without facts on Mr. Vennes. I recognized that my initial response did come from some anger, but the anger was related to what appeared to be blatant deceit.  The anger was recognized leading to a published apology.[ii] In January of 2010, this writer wondered what did Mr. Vennes actually know and commented about how we all need to stand for truth[iii]. See Mr. Vennes friends and voraciously defended the man and his reputation that doubt was caught on the initial impressions and anger.  It turns out the impression and anger was righteous and justified.

            His friends pointed out the fact that Mr. Vennes was not indicted no did he seem the target of the investigation.  It was that one fact that led to questions. Well, now there are questions no more.  As. Mr. Vennes has now been indicted. Apparently his finances had long ago been seized in relation to the fraud.  Sure, an indictment is not “proof” but the points of the initial articles were relevant and on target. See the question was always whether Mr. Vennes was a man conned, or an integral part of the con.  The current allegations point to his being an integral part of the con.  The Star Tribune article[iv] states that Mr. Vennes is on tape stating the empty warehouses will cause the scheme to “implode” and that the whole thing is “a little paper manufacturing plant.”

            See this shows appearance can be deceiving.  It illustrates that the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked. If you think you know a person, even had his deep faults confessed, he still can be seeking after that which is crooked and deceiving.  And Mr. Vennes is not really any different that any of us.  Each of us are capable of deceit and betrayal.

            In retrospect, there are lessons to be learned. While caution is always in order, there is righteous judgment and discernment.  The truth can be known without evidence of all the facts. Mr. Vennes is alleged to have actively conned others, and this writer believes that to be true.  He put both Teen Challenge and Northwestern College in positions that impacted them and threatened their existence. The root of the actions and deception was all in order for a handful of people to make a lot of money.

            Another point is no matter how well hidden things seem to be, sooner or later all the deeds in darkness will be exposed. Some, like the Petters scheme will be exposed in this life time before all. But when Jesus returns, every little evil will be brought into open. Nothing hidden! 

            It is also worth noting how easily any of us can be if we operate based on experience.  We think we can know a person, view their actions and conclude they are seeking after pure motives. Yet, there are many like Mr. Vennes or Ananias and Sapphira, or Judas that more is going on then the initial experience. With the disciples, none but Jesus knew what was in his heart, even when he left the last supper, pointed out as a betrayer, the disciples see were unaware of the darkness in his heart. He followed Jesus.  It is due to revelation of the Holy Spirit that Ananias and Sapphira were exposed and brought to death.  Some think that God is cruel for such actions. But it is that deep deception, the deceitful appearance and heart that God knows impacts and corrupts many. Their death was an act of love and righteous wrath. Now, I hope and pray that Mr. Vennes is not like Judas or Annanias and Sapphira. It is not too late for true repentance. However, the man has conned many for a long time and the veracity of anything coming from the man will need to be questioned.  For it is not the appearance of good works that is the fruit of repentance, it is true surrender to Jesus. Mr. Vennes faked it fooling many, but He has been exposed. The story serves as an example for all.  And if there are friends who still seek to defend the man, take it up with the creator, for Mr. Vennes in my mind is a deceiver and wolf in sheeps clothing that fooled many.

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Seven Essential Strategies for Coping with Acute Stress Reactions

People who face acute stress, critical incidents, or disaster have faced something that is life changing.  The greater the acuity is the greater the life impact.   Their lives will never be the same.  More and more as separated from the immediate impact by time and distance there will be a psychological rollercoaster of emotions and symptoms. A basic understanding of symptoms related to acute stress reaction if found at this article: https://peacebringer7.wordpress.com/2010/01/30/understanding-acute-stress-reaction/.  The focus of this article is about coping with the experience of acute stress reaction.

In examining how to cope with acute stress it is important to recognize that there is a difference when you are in the midst of an acutely stressful situation and when that stressor is over and there is no longer immediate risk.  During acute stress, coping is all about meeting needs and staying safe and helping others to do the same. It is all about survival and making it to the next day.  The symptoms of acute stress reaction can start as the ongoing fear of what will happen next is normal.  However, the true work of coping and reducing symptoms comes later, when removed from the acute stress and in a place of safety.  When that safety level is reached the acute stress reactions symptoms intensify and can be debilitating.  However, eventually the symptoms will subside if you are able to effectively cope and heal from what happened.  Now let’s look at some specific things you can do to help facilitate the healing and reduction of symptoms.

  1: Take care of your physical needs. 

            This means attending to basic self-care needs.  Basically it is assuring three essentials: nutrition, exercise, and rest.  Eating well, engaging your body, and assuring rest will help anyone recover. Granted many of us do not eat well or exercise well before any acute stress. This really is about focusing on basic needs and is really a carry over of the survival mode that occurred during the acute stress.  Now rest is an important part of self care but it is also worth addressing in more detail separately.  

2: Set aside specific time to just rest.

            Rest is essential to any recovery from acute stress.  When we rest and even sleep, the body takes time to recover and adapt.  Some of the symptoms that are experienced are essentially our body and brain trying to work through the difficult experience.  It is while we sleep that the brain goes over the communication routes and does any ‘rewiring’ of the communication patterns.  Also if you cannot sleep do not focus your thought on the difficulty sleep, but rather do things that enable you to be in a more relaxed state.

3: Practice Relaxation.

            This goes along with taking time to rest but really needed to comment on this more fully.  Some of the symptoms of acute stress are directly related to anxiety and panic and fears triggered by having experienced acute stress.  Practicing relaxation is the primary means of coping with anxiety and panic symptoms. So do things that you find relaxing or calming.  It also may be beneficial to take time doing exercise, which can also shift your body into a more relaxed state.  It is also helpful if you notice increasing anxiety to practice deep breathing.  Take deep breaths in and breathe out slowly.

4. Talk about experience

            This is an essential step for recovery. Being able to process and sort through and talk about the experience.  It is helpful to talk things out both with others who have been through the same experience and those that have not.  Talking enables thoughts and feelings. It connects you to the shared experience and it reduces the intensity of the symptoms over time.  It is worth noting that talking about the acute stressor is important for a time, but if it pre-dominates your thoughts and conversation then there is a need to disengage from that discussion.  Do make sure and take time about all ways impacted and the results.  It can be easy to get lost in one aspect of the acute stress or another. Take time to discuss it all.  Do not refrain from discussing or engaging others around what happened. The more you hold things back, the more likely symptoms are to increase and remain. 

5. Stay engaged.

            Some of the symptoms of acute stress reaction that results in withdrawal and avoidance.   Engaging in withdrawal or avoidance is tempting and will seem to foster safety.  However, when you disengage through avoidance and withdrawal it can increase the frequency, duration, and intensity of symptoms.  It is better to find ways to keep engaged and not shut down.  There is really a balance here, there are moments of needing rest and relaxation and perhaps time alone.  But if decisions are made to avoid certain places or things that remind you of the acute stressor such behavior directly impacts the recovery. In fact the opposite of the temptation is more beneficial.  For example, let’s say you were in a car accident and initially any time you are at the place where it occurred you will nervous and scared.  The more you go by that place and are safe, the anxiety and nervousness of being at the spot of the accident reduces. 

6. Engage in pleasurable activities.

            This is a general principle in dealing with distressing emotions and situations.  Find time to do things that are soothing and pleasurable. Engage your senses.  Moments of doing things that are pleasurable can serve as a distraction from the distressing emotions and take your mind off of matters. Now, it is not uncommon to have difficulty enjoying things that were usually enjoyable, but it is worth the effort to follow through even if you may not feel like it.  Living every minute of the day focused on recovering from the acute stress will get draining if there is no ability to engage in pleasurable distractions.

7. Attend to your spiritual health.   

            The experience of acute stress can bring all sorts of responses and barriers to your relationship with God.  Doubts can surface, anger at God can surface, you can draw closer to God, even enter into relationship with God.  Engaging spiritually and turning to God can be an essential part of your healing from the experienced trauma.  Now, it takes another article to go into details about spiritual principles that can help with coping with acute stress.  The starting point is really about building your faith and finding hope out of the trauma.  There are always two choices, a path of faith and hope and that of doubt and despair. Choose to walk in faith and hope and draw closer to God, He will see you through.  Seek out spiritual counsel for assistance directly for help and prayer with your personal struggles in this area.      

 Now hopefully these suggestions to help for coping are helpful.  Admittedly on first glance they may seem to be simple common sense, yet they are easily ignored and not attended to as well.  If you have experienced acute stress, your life is forever changed, but healing can and will come.  Ultimately the suffering and pain endured will serve to strength you, make you more aware of weaknesses and enable further fruit and growth.  Peace and joy are available, but it all starts with being intentional with these coping strategies.  It continues with following some basic spiritual principles that will be outlined in another article.  Recognize that recovery takes time, but the only way to recover is to engage and go through the process.  Symptoms will occur, emotions will fluctuate, but healilng can and will come.