Growth, Engagement and a lesson from Twitter

Today there is a need to share reflection. A milestone of sorts was passed today by crossing the 1000 followers on Twitter and reaching perhaps 2000 within 24 hours. As the 1000 follower milestone appeared in reach, yesterday began following many to get that number up, and then made a post with someone who encouraged supporting one another. The reaching out resulted in support from a couple people that resulted in exponential growth. This significance of this does not escape this writer. The past year God has been working growth within this writer. It was God’s theme for me and my wife for the past year. This twitter growth is certainly an evidence of what God can do. A certain principle is at work. Reach out, ask, and share. This is what one individual is responsible to do: engage and take steps. Others around you can respond or ignore, but there needs to be engagement. Growth occurs with response from others based on some level of trust. Sure there are marketing schemes and ways to engage in promotion and generation of numbers. And for this writer, there will come a time that is important. Yet, I know, at this time, there is a need to engage. My engagement currently has 3 elements which will touch on briefly.

The past: I reviewed my opening blog post: https://peacebringer7.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/the-beginning-finally/. There were many thoughts and elements going on 11 years ago with active writing stopping 6 years ago. God had used this voice to work through varied thoughts and ideas with the apex being this article: https://peacebringer7.wordpress.com/2010/04/24/seven-spiritual-principles-for-transcending-suffering/. The most views came around an actual back and forth around an author of another blog and stepping into thoughts on the whole ordeal. Many lessons were learned from 2008 to 2013. Then the blog went silent, due in part to feeling there was repetition. Also during that time I had started a website and forum that since closed down as the time and purpose closed. The truth is, the engagement stopped, and the world changed with my voice offering little in the midst.

The present: I feel led to really engage in writing again, but have not followed through. The growth on Twitter promoted this article. This year that focused on growth actually brought much death. My mother died, a precious canine servant of God died, and many others as well. There is a current and active writing challenge of working on a dissertation to complete a Doctor of Counseling degree. Globally, in the culture, there is much going on, yet much is not clear and in a fog as things anticipated do not occur and no sense of when breaks will occur. In all this, God is in control and does have evil on a leash. As such, growth occurs with endings and beginnings while completing a major task that takes much and goes slow. However, to move and grow, there needs to be engagement and action.

The future: I know will involve writing, and writing at a point with product to sell. So I need engage. I know God’s next theme for my life is clarity, and clarity that is connected in some way to deep hunger. Right now, I have ideas and a direction, but ultimately looking to God to lead, guide, and sustain. Ultimately, God will have his way, and many things are ahead. But the key is to engage.

Seven Essential Strategies for Coping with Acute Stress Reactions

People who face acute stress, critical incidents, or disaster have faced something that is life changing.  The greater the acuity is the greater the life impact.   Their lives will never be the same.  More and more as separated from the immediate impact by time and distance there will be a psychological rollercoaster of emotions and symptoms. A basic understanding of symptoms related to acute stress reaction if found at this article: https://peacebringer7.wordpress.com/2010/01/30/understanding-acute-stress-reaction/.  The focus of this article is about coping with the experience of acute stress reaction.

In examining how to cope with acute stress it is important to recognize that there is a difference when you are in the midst of an acutely stressful situation and when that stressor is over and there is no longer immediate risk.  During acute stress, coping is all about meeting needs and staying safe and helping others to do the same. It is all about survival and making it to the next day.  The symptoms of acute stress reaction can start as the ongoing fear of what will happen next is normal.  However, the true work of coping and reducing symptoms comes later, when removed from the acute stress and in a place of safety.  When that safety level is reached the acute stress reactions symptoms intensify and can be debilitating.  However, eventually the symptoms will subside if you are able to effectively cope and heal from what happened.  Now let’s look at some specific things you can do to help facilitate the healing and reduction of symptoms.

  1: Take care of your physical needs. 

            This means attending to basic self-care needs.  Basically it is assuring three essentials: nutrition, exercise, and rest.  Eating well, engaging your body, and assuring rest will help anyone recover. Granted many of us do not eat well or exercise well before any acute stress. This really is about focusing on basic needs and is really a carry over of the survival mode that occurred during the acute stress.  Now rest is an important part of self care but it is also worth addressing in more detail separately.  

2: Set aside specific time to just rest.

            Rest is essential to any recovery from acute stress.  When we rest and even sleep, the body takes time to recover and adapt.  Some of the symptoms that are experienced are essentially our body and brain trying to work through the difficult experience.  It is while we sleep that the brain goes over the communication routes and does any ‘rewiring’ of the communication patterns.  Also if you cannot sleep do not focus your thought on the difficulty sleep, but rather do things that enable you to be in a more relaxed state.

3: Practice Relaxation.

            This goes along with taking time to rest but really needed to comment on this more fully.  Some of the symptoms of acute stress are directly related to anxiety and panic and fears triggered by having experienced acute stress.  Practicing relaxation is the primary means of coping with anxiety and panic symptoms. So do things that you find relaxing or calming.  It also may be beneficial to take time doing exercise, which can also shift your body into a more relaxed state.  It is also helpful if you notice increasing anxiety to practice deep breathing.  Take deep breaths in and breathe out slowly.

4. Talk about experience

            This is an essential step for recovery. Being able to process and sort through and talk about the experience.  It is helpful to talk things out both with others who have been through the same experience and those that have not.  Talking enables thoughts and feelings. It connects you to the shared experience and it reduces the intensity of the symptoms over time.  It is worth noting that talking about the acute stressor is important for a time, but if it pre-dominates your thoughts and conversation then there is a need to disengage from that discussion.  Do make sure and take time about all ways impacted and the results.  It can be easy to get lost in one aspect of the acute stress or another. Take time to discuss it all.  Do not refrain from discussing or engaging others around what happened. The more you hold things back, the more likely symptoms are to increase and remain. 

5. Stay engaged.

            Some of the symptoms of acute stress reaction that results in withdrawal and avoidance.   Engaging in withdrawal or avoidance is tempting and will seem to foster safety.  However, when you disengage through avoidance and withdrawal it can increase the frequency, duration, and intensity of symptoms.  It is better to find ways to keep engaged and not shut down.  There is really a balance here, there are moments of needing rest and relaxation and perhaps time alone.  But if decisions are made to avoid certain places or things that remind you of the acute stressor such behavior directly impacts the recovery. In fact the opposite of the temptation is more beneficial.  For example, let’s say you were in a car accident and initially any time you are at the place where it occurred you will nervous and scared.  The more you go by that place and are safe, the anxiety and nervousness of being at the spot of the accident reduces. 

6. Engage in pleasurable activities.

            This is a general principle in dealing with distressing emotions and situations.  Find time to do things that are soothing and pleasurable. Engage your senses.  Moments of doing things that are pleasurable can serve as a distraction from the distressing emotions and take your mind off of matters. Now, it is not uncommon to have difficulty enjoying things that were usually enjoyable, but it is worth the effort to follow through even if you may not feel like it.  Living every minute of the day focused on recovering from the acute stress will get draining if there is no ability to engage in pleasurable distractions.

7. Attend to your spiritual health.   

            The experience of acute stress can bring all sorts of responses and barriers to your relationship with God.  Doubts can surface, anger at God can surface, you can draw closer to God, even enter into relationship with God.  Engaging spiritually and turning to God can be an essential part of your healing from the experienced trauma.  Now, it takes another article to go into details about spiritual principles that can help with coping with acute stress.  The starting point is really about building your faith and finding hope out of the trauma.  There are always two choices, a path of faith and hope and that of doubt and despair. Choose to walk in faith and hope and draw closer to God, He will see you through.  Seek out spiritual counsel for assistance directly for help and prayer with your personal struggles in this area.      

 Now hopefully these suggestions to help for coping are helpful.  Admittedly on first glance they may seem to be simple common sense, yet they are easily ignored and not attended to as well.  If you have experienced acute stress, your life is forever changed, but healing can and will come.  Ultimately the suffering and pain endured will serve to strength you, make you more aware of weaknesses and enable further fruit and growth.  Peace and joy are available, but it all starts with being intentional with these coping strategies.  It continues with following some basic spiritual principles that will be outlined in another article.  Recognize that recovery takes time, but the only way to recover is to engage and go through the process.  Symptoms will occur, emotions will fluctuate, but healilng can and will come.

Question of the week: How important is your relationship with Jesus?

In an attempt to increase content consistency on this blog am going to give assurances of some quick posts on the same day per week. The first such posting series is a weekly question. The plan is to post a question each week with the intent of challenging where you are in your walk with Jesus. A good starting point for this series is to challenge you to think about your relationship and how important it is to you.

The reason this question comes to mind is because very often in the lives of professing Christians the relationship is not engaged. Personally, I struggle with spending time just being with Jesus versus operating from my knowledge of Him. I easily set time with Jesus aside for other distractions. Recently I have spending more time having things related to Jesus going on the background. Yet, the important note is that it is in the background. Now while it helps shape the mind with what is being put in, it is not the concerted time that equals the priority I saw I place Jesus in my life. My actions often do not match up to words.

Now I know the whys and sources, strengths and weaknesses that lead up to a bunch of excuses as to why I don’t spend more time just interacting with Jesus. On this blog you will find mentioned over and over again that the source of peace and joy is found in surrender to Jesus. In order to surrender to Jesus, there needs to be time put into the relationship that is beyond the background. On this blog you will find references of moving from Kingdom of self versus the Kingdom of God. Yet, our own little kingdoms is often what takes priority. Very often it is our very self that is really most important in spite of what we say is important. So the starting question this is week is to ask you to think about how important is your relationship with Jesus, really. Take time to reflect on it. Feel free to offer comments here or at this discussion on the forum: http://www.peacebringer.net/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=1917#p6132.