Symptoms of a Hyper-sexualized Culture: Tiger Woods & David Letterman

Let’s face it.  America and the whole of North America is obsessed with sex.  Actually the focus on sex is far more extensive, throughout most of the world there is a huge focus on sex.  The pornography industry makes billions of dollars for a reason.  However, it is not just the titillation and gratification of the erotic that is part of the focus but the focus on the comings and goings of famous people makes billions of dollars as well.  Talk of sex of any kind draws interest.  An article on this blog about some sexual inpropriety at the Metrodome brought many hits. The fact is in general people attend to and are even over-focused on conversation about sex. 

Currently the United States and world is attending to the choices and sexual behavior of Eldrick Tont “Tiger” Wood.  Tiger is famous worldwide for his ability to hit a little white ball into a small hole with a stick.  Tiger’s choices are not really any different than a lot of people, he simply has unlimited opportunities based on his fame and fortune.  Another famous person in the news for his sexual daliances is David Letterman.  His behavior and infidelity should not be a shock to anyone.  He has always been very flirtatious with female guests.  There are many, many others as much money is made tracking the sexual proclivities of those famous and infamous.

Now while the culture is fascinated by the sexual activities and indescretions of the famous and infamous, efforts are underway to encourage assorted sexual engagements and minimize the difficulties.  A recent study at the University of Minnesota concluded that casual sex does not result in negative emotional consequences. The study surveyed just over 1300 sexually active students and used self-esteem and depression questions to measure negative consecuences. The study concludes that in general sexually active people are not disturbed and feel generally good about there sexual encounters and do not feel bad.  While the researchers report the results a suprise when you examine the emphasis culture puts and teaches on sex it should not be a suprise. Rather, in this day and age people are prone to feel depressed and have lower self-esteem if they are not engaged in sexual encounters either committed or casual.

The evidence of hypersexualization of culture cannot simply be concluded from that study.  A study in Montreal recently made the news by indicating that there is no men in Montreal that are “porn virgins.” Universite de Montreal assistant professor Simon Louis Lajeunesse wanted to study the difference between men exposed to porn and those that had not been exposed to porn. He could not find any young men not exposed to porn.  He then went on to interview twenty men and concluded that porn does not have a negative impact on the viewers and their life choices.  In essence it minimized any negatives that come from use of porn and normalizes it, all based on interviewing twenty men and asking them about there porn viewing, sexuality, and relationships.  Ultimately it is simply another flawed study that supports the hyper-sexualization of culture.

The fact is sexual intimacy has really become about seeking pleasure and self-fullfillment. It is about not witholding that which is gratifying. Our culture no longer considers all the relational aspects of sex, rather is pushes the seeking of self-fullfillment.  When people such as Tiger Woods and David Letterman engage in that self-gratification, then society focuses on their lack of self-restraint and publicly mocks them for doing that which culture ultimately encourages.

Ultimately we are all responsible for our choices.  The values and mores that embrace self-gratification and fullfillment above all else are engrained, but we each have responsibility for our own choices.  There is a better way than that which is promoted in our culture. It is the way of a pure, committed relationship within the confines of marriage.  Sex should be the final step of intimacy between a man and woman and should reflect the bond that is already formed between the two. Sex is the joining together of two people and it creates a lasting bond.   In comparison, the current elevated view of sexual pleasure in society is a damaged view. Relationships suffer over and over because of choices made related to sexual self-fullfillment. 

So given these symptoms and the ongoing efforts to normalize and minimize the negative consequences the self-fullfillment approach to sex, how do we reduce those symptoms.  Well, the world is the way it is. Ultimately even if you personally maintained healthy sexual initimacy within the confines of marriage there are many temptations and snares to create negative relational consequences.  Both men and women a like are assualted with tempting sexual options to seek self-fullfillment.  However, at the end of the day, whether by sexual pleasures or other efforts to seek self-fullfillment they all end up returning with emptiness. For the pleasure is temporary, and each of us have an ongoing yearning for more.  That yearning for more is not satisfied by any level of pleasure and is but momentary.  The reason is ultimately we need connection with the Creator.  We need to be in proper relationship with the author of love.  We need to experience true love, instead many settle for the momentary and fleeting pleasures. The world distorts the reality of what was created to build and reflect love. The created pleasure is used to fill the whole from the loss of relationship to God and His love.  His love though is readily available and is far more satisfying in the long run than any pleasure of the moment.


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  1. It’s snowing! I guess I look at at as a matter of our disconnection with the Living God. Lawlessness abounds and we have grown numb. Why? We are toxic inside and out. We are polluted by our egos desires for fast comfort and easy answers. We are then attracted to death. Death in food, physical/spiritual. We radiate our emptiness outwards and attract and ingest more and more until it streams out of our nostrils, yet we never ask ‘why do I do what I do and how does my radiation and desire affect me and all those within my limited universe?’ I always wonder, if we know so much, why is it we still cannot manifest our Creators perception of us to each other? And why with so many toys out there to play with are we still so empty and void? Images are speaking. People are freaking. Plundering growing. Reaping old man sowing. Desperation flowing. Wild and waste groaning. Govern me for I know not what I do. My path is ugly and I got dump on me shoe. There is no God they say. They may be right, if I was Him I’d be far away from some who hated my design. My honest reflection of space and time.

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