Love. It is a simple word. It signifies something we all so desperately want but it is also so very lacking. Love is the most talked about subject within our culture and everything point to a significant relationship and subsequent children as the apex of love. Yet, ultimately none of us get it. We fail to grasp love. We all wanted be care for and are hurt when we are not. We all desperately want to be loved and to love. It is at the core of humanity. It is why we take on pets for example, to love and be loved.
Yet, ultimately we fail to grasp love and are really far from it. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves provides a definition of love: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Our experience of love falls far of that definition. Here is the reason. The definition involves no focus on self. It is looking outward toward the welfare of others. The essence of love is found in Philippians 2:3 (ESV) 3 Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. When we love we are emptying of self. We are giving of self. We are focused on the welfare not of self, but of others. However, we are ever self-focused.
We are wrapped up in our perception of being loved and are quick to voice when we are not engaged in behavior that is perceived as caring or loving. When we get upset, we do so when someone else has failed to engage in looking out for our welfare and did or said something we find lacking. Such a response is even followed suit in understanding and rejecting God. Many who reject God look at pain and suffering in the world and their own lives and conclude that a loving God could not allow such. So they reject God. Some in that rejection will push simply engaging in looking out for the welfare of others. The refrain is “all we need is love.” Simply look out for others and make the best world today. Yet, lost in it all is the day to day agony when that desire of love falters.
The fact is God does look out for our welfare. He never fails. The rest of us fall far short. So, yes we all need love, and love is what we all need, but if you separate that love from the author and source of love it is but illusion. God is the only one who provides full care and love. Yes, the love does provide limits and structures, not out of cruelty, but in understanding what we need and what hurts us. We see that every day with parents and children, choices made and limits set for their welfare often in spite of great protest. Sure, any one of us can demonstrate love to others. We can do good too others apart from God. We can make the best out of life. Yet, it is making the best of what we can. But that falls far short of a life submitted to God, the source and author of love. And none of us have a grasp on God’s love. Our understanding is limited. Yet, as you grow in understanding God, love grow. Love for God, self, and others. It comes as you grow and as you understand and grow the wounds and hurts from the damages of living life heal and allow true forward movement that in turn demonstrates the care for others found in demonstrating true love. We need love. We need God. You cannot separate the two for God is love. So yes, all we need is love and that need is only found in God, who is love. So God is what we all need, for God is love.
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